Aug 17, 2020
On this episode of the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina and her listeners will dive into the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) presupposition that “you cannot not communicate.” She explains that we are always communicating: with others; with the self; and even with our moments of silence, however, our reactions to communication—or the lack of it—are also influenced by one’s foundational and internal meaning-making systems.
Whenever we experience a lack of communication within a relationship, we still interpret noncommunication as a form of communication, and we each may draw different assumptions on why or how this void exists based on what Marina calls our “internal maps.” These maps are the experiences and information that affected us during our foundational years and continue to influence the ways in which we engage in daily communication and social interactions. They are our coding or internal wiring, Marina explains.
Silence, for example, may not mean what you think it means. But, it does mean something. Your internal map may come up with an assumption for what you think the silence could mean, but that does not mean that your partner’s map will bring them to the same conclusion. Marina suggests navigating through the silences with others in order to experience richer relationships, as well as come to a better understanding of one another’s internal maps.
Marina rounds out the podcast with a few final tips for opening ourselves up to a deeper awareness of our internal communication. She reminds listeners that internal communication also includes bodily sensations, and that these nonverbal cues are warning signs that we should also remember to thank our body for whenever we experience them. Taking the time to pause, recognize, and hear these sensations will bring us a higher awareness of what our body is trying to tell us.
Things You Will Learn
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